Threesomes are popular these days. At least in literature. And it makes you wonder, doesn't it? I think the fascination is understandable. Even in the happiest of relationships, who doesn't sometimes wish for their partner to show a different set of character traits? Show just that little bit more enthusiasm to go out for long walks with you. Appreciate a cuddle on the sofa. Enjoy horror movies as much as you do. There's bound to be something where you're interests just don't match, and that's where another, a second, partner might come in handy.
Not to mention the sex. Enjoying the attention of two lovers simultaneously? Blows your mind...
But my question is, does it work? Can it work? Most people I know either believe in monogamous relationships, i.e. two people together, or they're single and looking for The One. What does it take to realise that the one person you're with is not enough and how do you go about finding a third? Or what if you're in a working relationship and suddenly there's someone else? Would you take the risk to include him/her? How big is the chance that your partner will feel attracted to that other person, too, fall in love with them, even?
Admittedly, I'm raising more questions than giving answers today, but these were the questions on my mind while writing Triple Trust, a story about three men who come to understand that sometimes, two just aren't enough. I believe I found some answers to my question as I followed Cole, Seth and Dylan along their bumpy and painful way to love and if you'd like, you can walk that road with them.
When trust
doesn't come easy and two can't make it work, then three might be just what it
takes to create the perfect relationship.
When
Dylan Mitchell hires the indecently beautiful part-time fidelity tester and
full-time cynic Cole Peckham to find out how loyal his boyfriend Seth Knowles
really is, he is ready to expect the worst. What he doesn't expect is the
immense temptation Cole presents to him—and to Seth. Or the instant attraction
Cole feels for both of them.
Deeply
disappointed by Dylan's lack of trust, Seth leaves Dylan both single and
heartbroken, but free to turn to Cole for comfort.
A cruel
twist of fate soon requires Cole to put much more into this fresh relationship
than he'd bargained for. While he is determined to give his best, it looks like
Dylan might need more than Cole can give him—especially since Dylan is still in
love with Seth. But when two can't make it work, three might be just what it
takes to create the perfect relationship…
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Contemplative post Sage. Is it because love is such a large emotion? How do you contain it? You know when you have your first child and you think you can't possible love another person to the extent you love that little bundle? Then your second child comes and you find you certainly can. It makes me wonder if polyamorous relationships with adults don't work the same. I tackled this issue for the first time in Loving Leonardo (Victorian m/m/f). Is it simply societal mores that make polyamory out of the ordinary? If society didn't care, would we? There have been societies in the past where such was perfectly normal.
ReplyDeleteInteresting point you raise there, Rose. Indeed, how much influences society and what we believe is expected of us what we do or rather, what we allow ourselves to do? Far more than we're aware of, I think, but it seems that our society is changing and becoming more accepting when it comes to "alternative" lifestyle - I hope it is.
DeleteI think a lot of the hesitation involves our inner fears that a third person would take away our lover's love for us. Deep down we all fear abandonment. It's hard to imagine sharing the one we invest so much love and caring into, with another person, who might be better looking, in better shape, more imaginative in bed, etc.
ReplyDeleteMaybe the popularity of these books is a way of exploring the idea of ménage without having to risk losing the one you love by actually trying it.
Hi Fiona,
DeleteI agree with your explanation. Someone who lives in a "classic" relationship, possibly even has a family, would stand to lose a lot if a third person got involved, so it's safer for them to enjoy this fantasy in the shape of a book - but doesn't the sheer amount of people who are interested in menage stories suggest that maybe human beings are not as monogamous as they're supposed to be according to our society's rules?
Im still begging for a middle slot.. or a end.. whichever :)
ReplyDeleteChris
no1lefthere@coxdotnet
I don't quite know what to say other than, the thought of three people together fascinates me. I too ask, in real life, does this work?
ReplyDeleteI have some online friends that have said yes. It truly does, that they know people personally that are in a threesome and are more than happy together. I'm in no way bothered by three people as a couple, I just wonder... HOW do they make it work without making one feel... well... like "the third wheel"?
;) looking forward to reading Triple Trust!
Judi
arella3173_loveless@yahoo(dot)com
Hey Judi, I guess the only way to make a threesome work is the same as with every other relationship - it takes lots of work and talking. Easier said than done, of course ;
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